Let’s just get to the point of this post, shall we? Since getting hitched to B, I have yet to change my last name and I’m not sure I ever will. I know, I know. Horrible isn’t it? (or so I’ve been told…) I’m supposed to take his last name so we can officially become a family unit. Plus, won’t our kids be confused if their parents have different last names? They cannot thrive under those conditions!
Truth be told, I like my last name and changing it would feel… weird. I love my husband and I know for a fact we’ll be together forever because we’re like two little weird peas in a pod, but I don’t necessarily think I have to change my last name to prove this love. Sure, it can be annoying when we’re filling out paperwork for our home, and I absolutely hate having to carry our marriage certificate around when we’re traveling (they usually won’t let us go up to the visa checkpoints together since I have a different last name), but like I said, changing my last name would make me feel like I’m losing myself. I’ve always been Rachel “X” and that makes sense to me.
Now, I’m known as Rachel “Y” on Facebook and when I send out mail or Christmas cards I put “from the Y family” and that doesn’t bother me at all. Not wanting to change my last name doesn’t mean I’m a man-hater and it definitely doesn’t mean I get upset when someone calls me Mrs. “Y” because technically I am Mrs. “Y” since I’m married to Mr. “Y” — I just don’t want to legally change my last name. There. Now that that’s off my chest I feel better. Phew!
I don’t have a problem with women changing their last names because everyone in my family has changed their last names and that’s great! I just wanted to explain my strange thought-process and why my husband couldn’t care less either way. We love each other. We’re married. The end.
Maybe I will decide to change my last name before we have kids. Who knows? For now, we’ll just confuse everyone with our different last names.
What are your thoughts on this?
Today I have the lovely Nicole of Treasure Tromp hanging out in my post. I enjoy reading her blog because she has a great mix of travel, recipes, and other life adventures. She’s a fun gal and I’m almost certain we would be best friends in real life!
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