travel fears

The gorgeous Lauren from Pink on the Cheek is about to go on an adventure and we need to help her out with some travel fears. Be sure to send her any travel advice you have!

Hey there Postcards readers! I’m Lauren from Pink on the Cheek! My lifestyle blog includes posts on blog tips, style, love + life.

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You are probably wondering why I am guest posting on Rachel’s blog since I never travel. The thing is I want to travel. I want to see the world. So that makes me completely jealous while skimming Rachel’s pictures from across the globe. The farthest I have been from home (California) would be when I travel to Virginia to see my friends.

The thing (besides money) that is holding me back from going out and seeing the world is…I hate flying. I can handle flights across the country. It’s when we fly to Hawaii that gets me. All that time flying over the ocean…I am re-playing every airplane crash on the news in my mind. My nerves probably started the time my mom told me, “You know that there is no such thing as a water landing, right?” Um, now I do!! (I promise you my mom is sweet!)

But this year is different. My friend is having her bachelorette party in Cabo San Lucas this summer. Yes, you can probably guess that my travel fears also include going to another country. Ironically, I am passport ready but never left the United States. I am really trying to not let my nerves get the best of me…but I can’t help it!

So this is where you come in. Find me on Pink on the Cheek or email me and tell me your travel tips! I know I can’t be the only one who is nervous about traveling out of the country!

Travel fears


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  • Anja Van Der Vorst

    Hello Lauren,

    What a great idea to share your fears and ask for advice; cool!

    I don’t have fear to leave the country, but that might be because I come from teeny tiny Holland. If we would not travel, boy, we would feel trapped. So Dutch people tend to travel. A lot. Everywhere.

    I have plenty of other fears though (not only regarding traveling) ! ;-).

    I share your fear of flying, yet I fly all the time due to certain circumstances. And I hate every minute of it.
    Funny how you distinguish flying over land and over water, since in my book, any crash is fatal. Hm, not reassuring you here, right? Not my intention to reinforce your fears. On the contrary. If you cope flying over land, you might tell yourself that over sea is not any different or riskier.

    What helps me is a sort of denial. I try not to think of it, till I am actually in the plane. I choose an aisle seat so that I might trick myself into believing that I am in a bus, not a plane. I choose an airline that has personalized entertainment systems, even if I have to pay more. And then I watch happy -or at least captivating- movies, one after the other. When I arrive from Holland to Singapore (where my husband lives) I sometimes have seen 6 movies! It diverts my focus and helps me a lot.

    I hope you get a lot of helpful advice and that you have a beautiful bachelorette party with your friend!

    • Postcards from Rachel

      For some reason, flying over water scares me more too. So strange. Haha. :)

      Love your advice for Lauren!

      • Anja Van Der Vorst

        Thanks, Rachel. I am just scared all the time myself…LOL…

    • Lauren

      BAHAHAH thank you! Any crash is fatal, now I can sleep at night, kidding! I actually think if something happens while flying over land we could try to land before it gets bad. I also pay extra to fly Jet Blue or Virgin just for their entertainment systems. If I can watch a movie I definitely feel calmer!! Thank you so much!!

      • Anja Van Der Vorst

        I KNEW you would feel better….NOT…hahaha…;-)

  • Louisa @ My Family & Abruzzo

    Hi Lauren. I’m not a fan of flying either, so don’t feel alone as you’d be surprised at how many of us feel that way. I listen to my favourite music, which is the biggest help because then I’m focussing on songs rather than plane sounds, if you see what I mean. Being organised and early really helps me too because if I am in control of the things I can be, then I feel it’s a great start to my journey. I am sure you will have a brilliant time with your friends and you will have conquered (or calmed) your fears.

    • Postcards from Rachel

      I completely agree with all of this! Being organized and calm helps, and I distract myself by listening to music or reading. Flying used to terrify me but I had to do it so much for work and when we lived abroad, I finally got over it. My husband was afraid of flying, too!

    • Lauren

      I hate plane sounds!! Okay, I will make sure I organize myself before the trip to make sure I don’t forget anything, thank you Louisa!

  • Amy | Club Narwhal

    Lauren, first of all, I am so jealous you are going to Cabo! What a fun trip :) Traveling is so much fun (and sometimes stressful) but if you plan well and allow yourself to be flexible it is always worth it. My biggest advice is purely technical: travel as light as you possibly can. When I first started traveling seriously, I would over pack like crazy. And then regret every moment of lugging my massive bag around! Have so much fun!

    • Lauren

      Okay, pack light. I think I only need to bring bikinis anyways:) And maxi dresses are my favorite!

  • FoundLove_Blog

    Hmmm…. what travel wisdom can I impart for you Lauren for your first international trip…. I think having a really good carry on bag with lots of pockets to store goodies is so helpful. When I fly, I always bring my faves: neck pillow, snacks, airborne, heck even slippers! Being comfy and surrounded by faves helps to calm flying fears and discomfort. Make sure you bring power adaptors and a spare iPhone charger. {I always loose mine!} And a spare memory card and battery for your camera, nothing worse than losing those baby boys! Alert your bank you are traveling internationally, and be sure to have small bills $1, $5 and $10 for tipping cabs and such. Have a blast!!

    • Lauren

      Spare items, check. That’s a good ideas to have small bills handy, good ideas!

  • adventuresofalondonkiwi

    Hmmm, I would say;
    Try to travel in the middle of the day when it’s a bit quieter & you can enjoy the clouds.
    Tell the air hostesses you are a nervous flyer – they are so absolutely lovely.
    Drive safely. Remember statitistically you’re more likely to be hurt on the journey in the car to the airport, than on the flight.
    Take a big soft lovely scarf – it’s good for SO much!

    • Lauren

      I love traveling with a big scarf so I can cuddle up with it!! I will talk to the flight attendants when I get a little nervous:) Thanks!

  • jackie jade

    I have friends who are terrified of flying and they ask their doctor’s for some anti-anxiety meds before their flights. not advocating always doing this but it can take the edge off for people who are super nervous! then either try to sleep on the flight or bring your ipad/kindle to watch a movie or read a book you love.

    • Lauren

      Aww Jackie, I got my xanax:) It definitely takes the edge off so I can relax!!

  • Claire (@Kurea_San)

    1. Pack light – no more than what you can carry on your back. Anything you forget you’ll be able to buy if you need to.

    2. Know that people all over the world are friendly (nor scary) – and will want you to enjoy their country. Try to make the most of what’s different, rather than search for home comforts.

    3. Don’t drink too much on your flight – it won’t help with the fears and you won’t feel good when you get off. Watching movies is a good way to take your mind off flying.

    4. Enjoy!! Travel is the best thing in the world. It’ll be the best thing you ever do :)

    Claire xx
    somewhere… beyond the sea

    • Lauren

      Thanks Claire!! I will try to embrace Mexico while I am there:)

  • Whitney

    I don’t really mind flying, because usually it bores me so much, I sleep.

    I always make sure to get to the airport at least two hours ahead of time, because you never know how long the security lines are. Be sure to bring a jacket on the plane, because it may or may not be cold.

    Have fun! I haven’t been to Cabo, but I’ve been to Cozumel and Cancun regarding Mexico.

  • Anna Belle

    I actually find that international flights are less nerve-wracking! With a bigger plane I find that the flights are usually *much* smoother. And on my last flight, we were able to watch the tv/movies during take-off and landing (there were those individual tvs on the back of the seat in front of you). I also try load a book that I am really excited about onto my kindle so I have something to look forward to.

    And I will disagree with some of the commenters: If you are staying in one place for the whole trip, take advantage of free checked bags on international flights and bring enough to be comfortable! Nothing is worse than not having comfortable shoes or a warm enough sweater (yes you can find a store, but depending on where you are traveling, options might be expensive. Comfort is sometimes worth a slightly larger suitcase). I will say that I *hate* carrying stuff around the airport, so I am picky with my carry-on!