an update and my word for 2014

More Positivity in the New Year 2014

I feel like I’m still trying to get into the swing of things in the New Year. Our first order of business this month was the long-distance house hunt that resulted in a beautiful townhouse in Northern Virginia, and now we’re trying to figure out when our move-in date will be. Since we haven’t even stepped inside our new home (yep, we did everything over Skype/FaceTime), we’re going to drive down to Virginia around our closing date to check out everything and bring a car-full of items — and then we have to decided when we’re leaving Boston for good. I have mixed feelings, to say the least.

I always hate the end of a rotation because I become a ball of stress weird. We have to contact the moving company and schedule important dates, we have to make plans with corporate housing, my husband has to communicate with his boss regarding his last day of work, and well, packing is a pain in my ass. Plus, have I mentioned how fun Boston is? I’m excited to move into our forever home since we haven’t been in one location for more than 6 months lately, but I can guarantee I’ll have tears streaming down my face as the car pulls away from our Cambridge apartment. I dislike feeling feelings. If only I could have my cold, black college heart back. Sigh…

Mainly, I’m worried about feeling content in one place. Right after we got married in August of 2011, we picked up and moved overseas… then we moved to Arizona, and Florida, and Massachusetts. Will our relationship change once we’re settled down? Will we be happy in Virginia? Sure, the townhouse is everything we wanted and more, but that doesn’t mean I’m not concerned. I just… I don’t even know. Can you tell I’m going nuts?

We’ve already decided that we’ll continue to take assignments abroad if the opportunity presents itself, and that our townhouse will be our home base, which will be wonderful for many reasons. We’ll be able to unpack our storage unit and have all of our belongings in one spot instead of spread throughout the United States, and hey, we can finally look at all of our wedding gifts we never even opened! It will be like Christmas in February/early March — whenever we move in.

Since I’m on the verge of having a stress-induced mental breakdown, my word for 2014 is going to be “positivity”. If I stay positive, everything will be okay, right? I hope so.

Here’s to more positivity in 2014!


Filed Under: Lifestyle31 Comments
  • Whitney Morris

    I’m sure its very stressful and I don’t think that my personality could handle it as well as you, but the idea of settling down but being willing to travel abroad should the opportunity arise seems super exciting!

  • Asia @ The Cracked Lens

    Everything will be fine! Don’t worry :)

    • Postcards from Rachel

      I think so too. Thanks! :)

  • Denise ||

    I can really identify with you on this post. Having had the liberty to pick up and go as I pleased in the past, venturing into buying my first home and establishing roots scare me. I worry that one day, I will wake up feeling utterly trapped, as if I missed out on many opportunities, and hate myself disproportionately.

    Anyway, I really appreciate the honesty in your writing. Your blog is always such a pleasant read. :)

  • Z K

    My word for 2014 is positive too! Looks like you’re going through a lot of changes – perfect time to practice all of that :]]]

    • Postcards from Rachel

      Yay for 2014 and both of us being more positive!!

  • Amy @ ToothbrushTravels

    It’s understandable that you may feel this way. Moving time is always stressful, so having to do it so often must be difficult. Time is the best healer for this one, but everything will be ok xo

  • Bailie @ The Hemborg Wife

    Ahhh I also would love to stop having so many emotions as I get older! Fredrik and I have moved around a lot in our five years together and 2013 was actually the first year we did not move in and it was wonderful! I do get the itch to move, and we will be in 2015, but having a set homebase and being able to really decorate and feel some roots is lovely. When the antsy pantsy feelings come in though the best way to push them out I have found is to move around the furniture and have a nice day out most likely at IKEA buying something new for the apartment.
    In terms of our relationship though it has been great in that we have been able to create more traditions and instead of going “O yeah last Christmas we were in Angelholm and the one before that Newport Beach and before that Fountain Valley” it is like last year we were here next year we are here and it creates a great sense of continuity.

  • Amanda

    I think having a permanent base to operate your travels out of is the way forward! (It’s the ideal I’ve always had in mind, at any rate). And if you do get extended abroad assignments and don’t want your house sitting empty for great, long periods of time you could look into subletting it if and when that situation ever arose. xx

  • Kaelene Spence

    Once you have settled into your new home everything will fall into place! Will feel great to have a home base and somewhere to make your own! Moving is never fun I couldn’t imagine all the moving and stress you guys have gone through. Best of luck and great word for the year!

  • Lisette

    Wish I were there to help you out! Your marriage has gone through rougher times. It won’t be awkward (silly). It will feel like vacation. Hugs friend!

    • Postcards from Rachel

      Ha, you’re right. It WILL probably feel like vacation and that will be just marvelous. ;) You have to visit!

  • Kate Mothes

    I’m totally with you in the freaking-out sense, Rachel ;) But you pretty much said to yourself what I always try to remind myself too… just be positive. Once you have your mind on moving and doing things, it’ll help the stress a little… to be doing instead of planning. And I think the idea of the ‘home base’ is really good! I try to keep that mind when considering what to do/where to go this August when school is finished. ;) Best of luck with all of the logistical junk, hands down to the most irritating part, but what an adventure!



    Artsy Abroad //

  • Sara Louise

    With my impending move back to the States looming, positivity is my word too. If I don’t stay positive, I know I will freak the eff out :)

    • Postcards from Rachel

      Ahhh, when are you moving back?! Are you excited?

      • Sara Louise

        The beginning of March! I’m excited, excited and terrified!
        I’ve been trying to calm my nerves by reading your post about flying the dogs over and over… thank you so much for posting it! :)

  • Jessa Olson

    You have such a positive outlook on things. You will be fine. I’m so happy for you. It will be nice to have a home base even if you travel abroad again..

  • Annessa

    I am just like this too, lately I’ve been getting really emotional with things like moving when I never did before. That must come with getting older? My fiance and I also have to try and find somewhere to live from afar, but I’m hoping it will be a little easier as we are renting and not buying. Good luck, the house looks beautiful!

  • Quyen Nguyen

    Having your own place to decorate and make it your own will definitely take away all of sad feelings of leaving Boston and settling down. You will love it!

  • Cece

    A forever home with the potential for still traveling abroad sounds perfect. Moving super sucks though. I don’t even want to think about ever doing it again.

    • Postcards from Rachel

      Yeah, it’s a pain because the movers always break something and our dogs get cranky during the long drive. ;) Haha.

  • Casey C

    Oh girl…do I SO feel you! Moving is the pits. I’m having mental breakdowns on the regular these days. But you lucky duck! You’ve got yourself a gorgeous townhouse to look forward to! Color me jealous! Settling down is what I’m ALWAYS day dreaming about. Is that crazy? I love traveling and running around, but geez does it get old. I’m sure you know. It’s funny…my life is totally up in the air and filled with so many question marks right now that I’d give anything to have a new house to look forward to. But you’re so right…positivity is the attitude to adopt. Thanks for the reminder, Rach! We can do this!

    • Postcards from Rachel

      When will you know if you’re moving to Northern Virginia? I’m kind of hoping we’ll be in the same spot so we can meet up. :)

      Hope everything is going OK with you. If you ever want to chat, you know where to find me!

      • Casey C

        We won’t know anything until March…they say. Patience is not a virtue I’m good at these days! I’m hoping for the DC or Florida area…so hopefully we’ll get some good news! A meet up would be awesome! It’s always great having friends already built into wherever we move…so fingers crossed for that. :) Thanks, girl…you’re so sweet!

  • Amber

    Oh, I can’t imagine how stressed you feel. But at the same time, it’s so exciting that you’ll have a permanent home now. Just keep looking at it that way. Keeping you in my thoughts!! xo

    • Postcards from Rachel

      I’m excited too! And our dogs will finally have a yard. :)

  • Helene

    oh girl that is tough. honestly from my point of view you are really holding it together, so that’s awesome. i do think being positive, even the in the slightest way, can definitely help

    • Postcards from Rachel

      Thanks! I think it will be nice settling down but I’m somewhat worried about the lifestyle change. We shall see. :)

  • KC Saling

    Those are the same fears that grip me every time I think about my eventual retirement from the Army. I have moved 11 times in 12 years, and that’s not likely to slow down in the next 8 it will take me to get to that magic moment I can drop my paperwork and hopefully move into a more permanent-ish life. But will I still get the itch? I redecorate constantly, and after 2 years, I’m ready to move again. Sigh.

  • Lisa

    It will be so nice for you to have all of your stuff in a HOME and have somewhere you can come back to in between all of your travels!! Good luck in the transition… it sounds tough, but I’m sure positive thoughts will help!

  • Jen B.

    Congrats on the new home! I read once that some of the most stressful things in live are changing jobs, moving, marriage, and a few others. So it’s no wonder you’re anxious but yay for getting to re-open wedding gifts. You’ll be a relocation expert – if you aren’t already. :)