No really, it does. Sometimes I read certain marriage advice websites and I either shake my head or scream at my laptop — and then Brandon inevitably gets an earful.
I’m not talking about regular “we’re-adorable-newlyweds-and-we-take-lots-of-photos” blogs. I hate sites that post marriage rules for their readers.
Bloggers who tell their readers that their marriage will fail if their significant other has an in-office meeting with the opposite sex, wait for it… alone. Bloggers who keep their marriages “pure” by basically stabbing out their husbands’ eyes before they go on walks around the city — ya know, just in case their spouse might be tempted by some good-looking lady. Bloggers who think they know it all when they’ve only been married for a year.
I mean, my husband has meetings all the time and he has a separate Facebook account. I guess we’ll be getting divorced in a few years. That sucks.
On a serious note, everyone’s relationship is different so don’t be so quick to judge others. And please, don’t post rules for your readers to abide by. These “rules” will most likely make your female audience nervous for no reason whatsoever. And guess what? Not everyone is able to request that their husband have a third-party present during meetings with the opposite sex. That’s unrealistic… and weird.
What happened to having a little faith in your spouse? What happened to trust? Believe me, learning to trust your husband is so much easier (and healthier) than being suspicious 24/7. I’ve been dumped, I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been that nagging girlfriend, and I’ve still learned to be laid back and happy in my marriage. I trust Brandon and he trusts me, therefore we can travel alone, go out alone… and hey, I don’t have to stab out his eyeballs.
Tips for newlyweds and a guide to a happy marriage? That’s cool. Telling your readers that their husbands will probably cheat on them if they don’t follow x, y, z? Get lost.
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